No.4 Talking solely about yourself
第四条：夸夸其谈，自吹自擂
Narcissism is not an attractive quality. Yes, there are some guys who can pull off being arrogant and self-absorbed, but this does not give you license to imitate them. Accidentally dominating conversations without intending to come off as self-involved is really no better because the end result is the same. Resist the urge to respond to every sentence with some version of: "Yeah, and here's how that applies to me!" Just shut up for 60 seconds and hear the words people are saying. Then, to top it all off, ask a perceptive question. This is what makes people feel like you care about anyone other than yourself.
自恋可不是个受人欢迎的特质。诚然，的确有些傲慢自大的家伙们混得不错，但这不代表你应该模仿他们。聊天过程中时不时把话题往自己身上引，无论此举是否出自有意，都不会带来正面影响。每当你想说：“对！我也是！” 的时候，忍住！坚持60秒不出声，听听别人怎么讲。然后再偶尔适当地发表几句有深度的言论，相信我，这样一来，人们都会爱你到不行。