1. Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enough so that your identity is separate from that of your parents and siblings。
在感情上与你成长的家庭分开；不要到产生隔阂的地步，但要足以使你的身份独立于你的父母和兄弟姐妹。
2. Build togetherness based on a shared intimacy and identity, while at the same time set boundaries to protect each partner's autonomy。
在相互的亲昵和一致的基础上建立归属感，但同时也要设定一些界限来保障每一个成员的自主权。
3. Establish a rich and pleasurable sexual relationship and protect it from the intrusions of the workplace and family obligations。
建立一种丰富而又愉快的性关系，并保护其免受繁杂工作和家庭义务的干扰。